Today's morning sermon is called Born To Lead. I am preaching on the family and this deals with the Purpose and role of the man in life and marriage.
One of the points of scripture about man's leadership is his love for his wife. Men must take the lead. I don't only mean physically, but emotionally. Men are the ones that must work to keep the spark of joy, friendship, communication, and attraction in the marriage.
Concerning this, there is a book out called Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. I have not totally read the book, so I can't endorse all of the content. The book deals with ways that people respond to be loved. It is important to understand what "language" your wife responds to be loved in. Some respond to gifts, some to talk, some to acts of kindness, etc. Here are some tips that may help you men as you accept the role to lead as a "Fire Starter":
1. Talk to your wife - communicate, don't just relay information and make necessary plans. Build a friendship.
2. Write random notes to her. Leave them places. Make them short and very sweet.
3. Occasionally, for no reason, buy her flowers.
4. Show your love for her publicly. Put your arm around her. Refer to her affectionately when around people. Allow her to here that. Let her know you appreciate and love her publicly.
5. Do something that is her responsibility without being asked. This is not a role reversal, but just showing her that you care and want to help her by cleaning a bathroom or whatever.
6. Include her into your business. She isn't with you all the time. Tell her your interaction with the business world, etc. Ask her about her interactions through the day. Be interested in her life, thoughts, etc.
7. Ask her randomly to tell you stories of her life before you were married. Ask her to tell you a story from when she was 7 or 11, or 14 yrs. old. This helps you dwell with her according to knowledge, but also allows you to share fond memories in her soul together.
I pray that this series on the Family will greatly strengthen our homes to be what the Lord desires a home to be.